Let's Punish the Victims - Serves Them Right - Western Feminists in the Wrong
So, looks like my blog on British bigotry and my support of Muslim women wearing the veil if they choose hit a nerve in some western feminists. Well too bad! In their comments to my blog, these women say that they agree with Jack Straw and Tony Blair (both major champions of women's rights......NOT!) that Muslim women in Britain should not be allowed to wear veils when speaking with men or going about in public because it "just isn't right and we don't do that here". These feminists see the veil as the degradation and oppression of women and so they vociferously denounce the veil and any woman that wears it. They, like those British bigots, want to prevent Muslim women from wearing the veil. Hmmmmm, sounds like these women are no better than those oppressing Muslim men who they think are to blame. Why don't we have everyone bash those women who elect to wear the veil in western countries because of their religious beliefs. This hostility toward Muslim women who chose to be veiled (or, let's say we agree with those feminists who say they are "forced" to wear the veil) is a lot like punishing a rape victim for causing her own rape. These Muslim women wear the veil for their own reasons and we should not impose our view of the world on them.
Listen, the only way to change other people is to live a life of example. If others see your life is an example they want to follow, then they will. If they don't like it, then they won't. Now most of these veil-wearing women are immigrants or possibly only second generation Britons. Wait another two generations and I bet you do not see those great grand children wearing veils. It takes time to assimilate people, it does not happen overnight. Also you have to give them the chance to assimilate. By discriminating against them or not making them fully participating members of your society you are marginalizing them and all that does is isolate them and make them really mad. If you make them really mad, their male youth will begin to riot and perhaps join terrorist groups to get back at their oppressors. Give these people time and opportunities to see what a "superior" way of life you have and then let things take their natural course.
Beating the victim is no way to help them. You have to be understanding and you have to be tolerant of looks, dress, or behaviors that do not do any harm to others. But more important of all is that you have to respect the decisions they make, whether it is by their own will or because they are doing it for some other reason. Let me put this "veil thing" into a somewhat different perspective for these feminists. Say there is a woman who is in an abusive relationship and whose husband beats her. Are you going to be supportive of her or are you going to advocate she "get back at that bastard", even if you know that she will get beaten twice as hard or possibly even be murdered. You have to support her, you have to make as many opportunities as you can to bolster her self esteem so she can realize how damaging her relationship is, you have to help her become self sufficient, you have to let her know you support her.
So, you feminists..........go soak your head. Muslim women should have the right to cover their faces, just as you do if you want to do it. They have right to follow their religion as they see fit. And they have the right to live a life free of harassment from societies who not only don't understand their culture or motivations as well as from those who would force them to go against beliefs and rituals that are at the core of their being.
Listen, the only way to change other people is to live a life of example. If others see your life is an example they want to follow, then they will. If they don't like it, then they won't. Now most of these veil-wearing women are immigrants or possibly only second generation Britons. Wait another two generations and I bet you do not see those great grand children wearing veils. It takes time to assimilate people, it does not happen overnight. Also you have to give them the chance to assimilate. By discriminating against them or not making them fully participating members of your society you are marginalizing them and all that does is isolate them and make them really mad. If you make them really mad, their male youth will begin to riot and perhaps join terrorist groups to get back at their oppressors. Give these people time and opportunities to see what a "superior" way of life you have and then let things take their natural course.
Beating the victim is no way to help them. You have to be understanding and you have to be tolerant of looks, dress, or behaviors that do not do any harm to others. But more important of all is that you have to respect the decisions they make, whether it is by their own will or because they are doing it for some other reason. Let me put this "veil thing" into a somewhat different perspective for these feminists. Say there is a woman who is in an abusive relationship and whose husband beats her. Are you going to be supportive of her or are you going to advocate she "get back at that bastard", even if you know that she will get beaten twice as hard or possibly even be murdered. You have to support her, you have to make as many opportunities as you can to bolster her self esteem so she can realize how damaging her relationship is, you have to help her become self sufficient, you have to let her know you support her.
So, you feminists..........go soak your head. Muslim women should have the right to cover their faces, just as you do if you want to do it. They have right to follow their religion as they see fit. And they have the right to live a life free of harassment from societies who not only don't understand their culture or motivations as well as from those who would force them to go against beliefs and rituals that are at the core of their being.
